What is Counseling?
"Counselors attend to most normal social, cultural, and developmental issues as well as the problems associated with physical, emotional, and mental issues. Counseling is a meeting between coach and client in which creative possibilities and productive dialogue occur. Counseling encourages self-help as a resource for positive change.
What a good counselor usually does:
Listen effectively to what you are saying.
Interject when it is useful and appropriate.
Facilitate the untangling of thoughts, feelings and worries about a situation.
Offer you insight into how you act, think, feel, how you come across and into your personal patterns.
Teach, show and help you express your emotions in your own way.
Teach, show and help you work out your own solutions to problems.
Teach, show and help you accept what cannot be changed.
Teach, show, help, and support you and your relationships.
Use a variety of techniques to help you explore what is truly important to you.ï¿½
How can Ardyth help?
With 34 years of experience under my belt, I am able to help you move fairly quickly. Rather than restricting sessions to 1 hour or less we often spend 2-3 hours per session allowing us to go deeply and quickly toward resolving conflict and transforming unwanted habits and patterns. Sessions can be in person when available and by telephone and/or skype. This way I am able to support people all over the world.
I use a blend of approaches that I have learned and developed over the years.
Thought Field Therapy
Thought Field Therapy: also called Tapping, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), RER (Relationship Energy Re-patterning), BrainGym, Callahan Techniques (TFT-CT) etc, are leading edge methods in the field of Energy Psychology. The tapping combined with key statements sends messages through the neuro-pathways of the brain, realigning and resetting core thoughts and beliefs. Properly applied most achieve either noticeable improvement or complete cessation of their problems. It is often the missing piece to improved quality of life, health, and relationships. TFT often works where nothing else will. The effects are usually rapid and long lasting, gentle and non- invasive. There are no drugs or equipment involved. TFT centers around the profound effects of the body's subtle energies using the theory that the cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body's energy system. TFT is easily learned by anyone and can be self applied and used throughout ones' lifetime.
To breath in is to inspire; to breathe out is to expire, therefore we take in and release with our breath. Using specific breathing exercises the very deepest emotions can be moved up out and released. In return, love, praise, appreciation can be let in and embodied by breathing in deeply. The Breath is our physical connection to spirit, to aliveness and vitality, the very essence of life. I have had years and years of training using the breath for emotion healing and will pass on these techniques to you.
In Depth Communication Techniques and Tools
Energy Psychology is a broad range of psychological treatments that utilize the human energy system and includes such modalities as Applied Kinesiology, Educational Kinesiology, NLP, Ericksonian Hypnosis, and meridian-based therapies, Relationship Energy Repatterning (RER). Releasing Technique, Be Set Free Fast, Tapas Acupressure Technique, and many other such therapies. There are also many energetic healing modalities that do not use psychological processes such as chi gong, acupuncture, aromatherapy, reflexology, therapeutic touch, and so forth. Re-Wiring the Inner World: From the point of view of Energy Psychology, painful physical, emotional and spiritual symptoms are the result of a disruption in the energy system. When the disruption is corrected, symptoms will be replaced by healthy functioning. For instance, a phobic response to spiders would be replaced by a calm or neutral response to spiders. All aspects of the phobic response would be normalized. Therefore, physical sensations of distress (such as tense muscles, racing heart, lumps in the throat or sensations in the pit of the stomach) are alleviated. Disturbed thought processes (such distorted perceptions and catastrophic expectations) are normalized. Negative emotions (fear, panic, anger, rage, helplessness, confusion, etc.) are replaced by neutral reasonable responses. Unhelpful behavioral tendencies - flight or fight - search and destroy, for example is corrected. This can be achieved using the natural resources of the bodys energetic system.
Written Exercises, Personalized Assignments and Recommendations
Communication is the heart of all relationships. Becoming successful in relationships starts with intention and productive communication styles. Learning to speak with intention will make significant differences in the outcome of conversations. I will help you by showing you how to become aware of your communication styles and the impacts those styles can have. Do you send the message of a victim, as a controller, or perhaps as stubborn or a know-it-all? Only a small portion of our communication is sent with words, the rest is with body language, tonality, languaging and more. I will help you determine if you speak as a visual/auditory/kinesthetic and what that means for you and your communication partner. Together we will practice and utilize specific techniques that will allow you to be heard and understood.
Customized Intensive Programs
Working on ones self and relationships does not start and end at my office. Being able to move more rapidly is enhanced with HOMEWORK. I often give you written exercise to help you look more specifically and deeply into underlying causes and sources of personal and relationship conflict. I will ask you to bring the results of your writing to session and we apply the insights to the Energy Psychology and Breath Therapies, and to improving communications. Personalized assignments and recommendations may include reading materials, budgeting, spending, saving, time away, time together, work improvements, chores, medical consultations, and more.
From time to time, it is in a clients best interest to experience deeper immersion into their process. For these times, I offer custom designed personalized programs for your individual needs providing maximum opportunity for accelerated growth. An intensive ranges from 1 day to 6 months. They can be arranged for individuals, couples, and groups.
My coaching style is gentle, direct and goal-oriented. I help you ‘Get Real’ and better understand yourselves and your partners. I help you to become aware of your communication styles and how often, unknown to you, you may actually be ‘asking for’ many of the undesired results you are getting. I have a keen talent for seeing deep, unconscious patterns that cause unwanted behavior patterns.
Working together I will help you learn practical solutions and tools to for everyday solutions. I am highly intuitive and supportive as I guide my clients to their desired results. People often comment on how quickly I get to the heart of the matter.
I am adept at helping you discover new possibilities and moving beyond barriers you may not have even known you had.